Sometimes the holidays can be a little rough. The relatives, family issues, the whole thing can get to you. I figured I'd see what I could write about it and immediately thought about the chakras. Especially the 4th chakra. The heart. Love. It can get you right in the feels sometimes. And this time of year tends to get you right freakin' there. I used to see it as a paramedic. Lots of suicides and heart attacks around this time of year. I never really knew why. Enter the chakras!
The fourth chakra is at the center of the 7 chakras with 3 below and 3 above. This is the area where the physical and the spiritual actually meet in the body. How's that for straight up "get you in the feels" stuff? The 4th chakra, the heart chakra is located at the center of the chest and includes the heart, cardiac plexus, thymus gland, lungs, and breasts. It also rules the lymphatic system. The Sanskrit word for the fourth chakra is Anahata, which means “unstruck” or “unhurt.” The name implies that beneath the hurts and grievances of past experiences lies a pure and spiritual place where no hurt exists. Could this be true? When your heart chakra is open, you are flowing with love and compassion, you are quick to forgive, and you accept others and yourself. A closed heart chakra can create grief, anger, jealousy, fear of betrayal, and hatred toward yourself and others.
Some people choose to live in the place of grievances. Some even carry it in their bodies. In their chests. They cave their chests inward to protect their hearts. They hide, they crouch. You know what I mean. Kyphosis. They’ve been hurt in the past by parents, siblings, friends, or loves. It’s basically impossible to avoid situations where someone may try to hurt you but you do get to choose what to do with that pain. Some people might try to hurt the other person back. That is not living from a place of Anahata. The person who inflicts pain on others is coming from a place of fear, ignorance or hatred, all of which represent a closed heart chakra. Ouch! When you encounter hurt feelings from your past or present, you can choose to feel them fully and let them go or hold onto them. By letting them go, you’re able to open your heart to new people and new experiences with compassion, love, and understanding. Holding onto hurt harbors negative feelings and cuts you off from opportunities to love and serve. Letting go is as easy as making a choice. Your mind and your ego may tell you otherwise but it’s as simple as choosing to let go and move on.
Empathy and Compassion Create Openness
Walking in another person’s shoes is not easy to do, but can be helpful in fostering a sense of empathy. To help create empathy and compassion, I like to play a game called, “the what if scenarios.” When encountering a person who is being unpleasant or who has treated me poorly in the past, I quickly take my mind through a host of what ifs. For example, ask yourself, “What if that person is just having a bad day?” or “What if that person just lost his job?” “What if she just learned her husband was having an affair?” “What if he was just diagnosed with an illness?” As you create these stories, of which the possibilities are endless, you begin to empathize with the other person and his or her situation. This method takes you away from yourself and self-pity and places compassion onto the other person. This little exercise creates a place in you where you can understand. And TBH we never really know what others are going through. So, be kind, ALWAYS!
Now, let’s suppose that there’s a family member or close friend who just repeats a pattern of inflicting hurt on a constant basis. You can still offer love and compassion either from a distance or by setting boundaries. In any case, know that when someone chooses to hurt you, it’s almost never about YOU. It’s about THEM. We've all heard this before but believe me, it's the TRUTH. So let them live their lives and you live yours.
Give Love to Receive Love
The best way to receive love is to give it. Author and motivational speaker, Leo Buscaglia, used to teach that we should give and receive 12 hugs a day for optimal health. So give hugs and kisses. Good God this one is tough for me. I'm not a hugger. It's a bit intimate for me. I was never hugged as a child. Like seriously, never. Other ways you can give love:
Love is a currency and whatever you give will come back to you.
Asanas, Sounds, Colors, and Gems to Balance the Fourth Chakra
Any yoga pose that opens the area of the chest will help to balance the heart chakra. Some poses include camel, dancer, and locust pose.
The mantra sound corresponding to the fourth chakra is the sound YUM. A special mantra to help expand love and compassion is OM MANI PADME HUM. You can repeat this mantra in meditation to gain greater access to these qualities.
The color is emerald green and the gemstones associated with the heart are emerald, malachite, jade, and rose quartz.
Enjoy the holidays a bit more with these thoughts of love and openness. Be kind. Especially to your family. They hurt just like everyone else. Empathy. It's a cool thing.
Debbie Krejci E-RYT 500
Yoga Teacher Training Mexico, Costa Rica, 2019
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